In a team meeting, we discussed this selection from Quiet:
“We can stretch our personalities, but only up to a point. Our inborn temperaments influence us, regardless of the lives we lead. A sizable part of who we are is ordained by our genes, by our brains, by our nervous systems. And yet the elasticity that Schwartz found in some of the high-reactive teens also suggests the converse: we have free will and can use it to shape our personalities.
These seem like contradictory principles, but they are not. Free will can take us far, suggests Dr. Schwartz’s research, but it cannot carry us infinitely beyond our genetic limits. Bill Gates is never going to be Bill Clinton, no matter how he polishes his social skills, and Bill Clinton can never be Bill Gates, no matter how much time he spends alone with a computer.
We might call this the ‘rubber band theory’ of personality. We are like rubber bands at rest. We are elastic and can stretch ourselves, but only so much.”
Bill Gates vs. Steve Jobs
Let’s make this practical. Check out the way Bill Gates and the team from Microsoft tried to pump up the crowd for the release of Windows 95:
Now politics aside, you can’t question that Bill Clinton could command a room. However, for an even more apples-to-apples comparison, let’s look at the way Steve Jobs works a crowd.
This video shows the product launch for the original iPhone. It’s long but just watch the first few minutes:
Both of these men are brilliant in their respective fields but these videos show the drastic differences in their personality. Steve Jobs was comfortable commanding a room with the sheer anticipation of the product creating excitement.
Bill Gates, on the other hand, didn’t look comfortable in that same settings and struggled to describe his product with words that illicit the same kind of atmosphere Jobs set.
Train Anyone, Anywhere in the World.
How far will your personality stretch?
Honestly evaluate your own personality.
- Are you more extroverted or introverted?
- What recharges you? And what drains?
- What are your strengths and weakness?
These are important things to know as you chart your path to success. How can we reconcile the tension between playing to our strengths/using our gifts and stretching ourselves outside of our comfort zone?
Now that’s even tougher question. How can you maximize your strengths and gifting while also not crippling yourself by never stretching outside your comfort zone?
If you never sat down and thought about that, we recommend doing so. What works best for everyone will vary but we recommend setting aside time for activities that are outside of your comfort zone.
You might be surprised to find an activity that with a little nurturing turns into a strength.
If you do some further digging for more recent Microsoft events, you can easily spot that Bill Gates has spent time developing his on-stage presence. He’s still not in the Bill Clinton or Steve Jobs stratosphere, but he’s definitely developed his voice.
Susan Cain Talks Quiet
Take a few minutes and watch Susan’s TED Talk about her book.
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